Why Don't We Listen Better?
Communicating & Connecting in Relationships - Second Edition


All the things you treasure still are there: the Flat-Brain Theory, the tango, the card, practical listening tips and humor.

In addition, Jim delved a bit deeper into techniques that can create, nurture and support the deep changes often required for us to journey into healthy relationships and self-discovery. Many readers have said these are the book’s true worth.

In this second edition, listening techniques are spread throughout, making them easier to use and practice as you read. This “Why” also has expanded sections on managing the Flat-Brain, communication traps, decision-making and motivation.

About the Book

Good communication uses the same skills in a professional office, on a date, in a corporate board room, or at a kitchen table. This book will help you gain these skills and improve your relationships.

Most of us think we listen well, but don’t. Not really hearing what others are trying to say can get costly. When people don’t feel heard they tend to get irritated, confused, and pull away from each other.

You will enjoy the flat-brain theory and the flat-brain tango. They show why we have trouble hearing each other, how we get into wasteful arguments, and how creative listening will help us get along better.

Six Listening Traps and 30 Listening Techniques will give you creative ways to handle both daily interactions and difficult relationships. Using the portable Talker-Listener Card will help you and others hear each other, relax, think clearer, and build empathy and cooperation. This unique approach to listening can change your life.

This book features listening techniques:

for couples wanting to improve poor communication

to upset teenagers or parents

to confused friends or spouses
at the family dinner table
to grief stricken friends
for work groups and salespeople
to disgruntled employees or irritated bosses

for counselors, consultants and negotiators

to yourself when you are bothered or unclear

to enhance business collaboration


ISBN 978-0-9791559-0-1

2nd Edition Price $22.95

(And, by the way,
the 1st Edition version is $15.95.)